Anointing of the Sick Explained for Families

In a busy parish like ours in Cheadle, the week fills up quickly: the school run, the commute, the shopping, the Tuesday coffee morning after Mass. Yet many of us sense a quiet hunger underneath it all — a desire to hear God speak, not just about him but to us. Lectio divina is one of the oldest and simplest ways the Church has given us to do that. It needs no special equipment and no more than a quarter of an hour to begin; what it needs is a willingness to slow down and listen.
What Lectio Divina Actually Is
Lectio divina is Latin for "divine reading". It is a prayerful way of reading Scripture, developed in the monasteries and described most famously by a twelfth-century Carthusian prior named Guigo II, who pictured it as a ladder of four rungs by which the soul climbs towards God. It is not the same as a Bible study, though it may deepen one. Nor is it an intellectual exercise in which we master a text. Rather, we let the text master us, gently, over time.
The heart of the practice is simple: we read a short passage slowly, chew it over, speak to God about it, and then rest in his presence without words.
The Four Movements, Step by Step
- Lectio (reading). Take a short passage and read it slowly, perhaps aloud, two or three times. Notice the word or phrase that catches your attention; do not analyse it yet.
- Meditatio (meditation). Turn that word over in your mind. Ask what it says about God, about you, about your week. Let it connect with your worries and hopes. This is pondering, not problem-solving.
- Oratio (prayer). Speak to God. Thank him, ask him, tell him what you feel. The passage has given you words; prayer gives them back to him.
- Contemplatio (contemplation). Let go of words and rest in God's presence. You are not trying to achieve anything; you are simply staying there, loved and known.
Some writers add a fifth step, actio — the action or resolution that flows from prayer. A word from Scripture may shape a decision, a kindness, or a forgiveness you had been putting off. That is lectio divina bearing fruit in daily life.
A Worked Example: Praying with the Sunday Gospel
Suppose the Gospel this Sunday is the stilling of the storm in Mark 4. You sit down with a cup of tea and your Bible. Lectio: you read it slowly, and the phrase that stays with you is "Let us go across to the other side." Meditatio: you wonder where you are in the boat. Are you rowing hard, or frightened? What is the storm in your life this week? Oratio: you say, "Lord, I am afraid. Speak to my storm." Contemplatio: you sit quietly, imagining yourself in the boat with him, and say nothing. After ten minutes you finish with a slow Sign of the Cross. That is a complete lectio divina, and it has taken less time than scrolling through your phone.
Making a Start at Home
Choose a time and place you can keep. Ten to fifteen minutes is enough: a kitchen table, a favourite chair, or a quiet corner of the church before Mass. Put your phone in another room. You will need a Bible and perhaps a notebook for the occasional line worth keeping. A simple pattern:
- Begin with the Sign of the Cross and a short prayer to the Holy Spirit.
- Read the Gospel for the coming Sunday, or a psalm, slowly. Stop when a word stands out.
- Stay with that word. Repeat it quietly.
- Speak to God about it in your own words.
- Rest in silence for a few minutes. Finish with the Our Father.
If you miss a day, begin again the next. Lectio divina is a habit of the heart, not a test.
Praying Together in the Parish
Cheadle is blessed with a parish family that prays together, and lectio divina works beautifully in a small group. A gathering in the parish hall after morning Mass, or a corner of the Lady Chapel during Advent and Lent, is an ideal setting. One person reads the passage slowly; then silence; then each person may share a single word or phrase, if they wish. There is no discussion, no right answer, no pressure. If you would like to start such a group, speak to your parish priest or a catechist. You may be surprised how many people are waiting for an invitation.
Common Pitfalls and Encouragement
The first pitfall is turning prayer into study. Reading commentaries has its place, but not during lectio divina. The second is chasing feelings. Some days will feel warm; many will not. Dryness is not failure; it is often where faith grows roots. The third is rushing: five minutes slowly is better than fifteen minutes hurriedly.
Above all, do not be discouraged by distraction. When your mind wanders — and it will — simply return to your word, gently. God is not impatient with you. He spoke the Word in the first place, and he can make himself heard in a kitchen in Cheadle, in a hospital bed, or in the few minutes before the school pick-up. Begin small, begin today, and let the Word do its quiet work.
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